What LifeSiteNews dubbed the “quartet of truth,” four children of same-sex couples have “come out” and issued briefings to the 5th Circuit Court of Appeals that striking down same-sex marriage bans in three states could lead to pain and suffering to thousands of kids.
Recalling childhoods rife with loneliness, sexual confusion, alienation, and, most of all, fear of repercussion from gay activists; Katy Faust, Dawn Stefanowicz, B.N. Klein, and Robert Oscar Lopez were each uncompromising in their condemnation of denying children the right to be raised in households without mothers and fathers.
“I grew up with a parent and her partner[s] in an atmosphere in which gay ideology was used as a tool of repression, retribution and abuse,” wrote B.N. Klein of her lesbian mother. “I have seen that children in gay households often become props to be publicly [sic] displayed to prove that gay families are just like heterosexual ones.”
“While I do not believe all gays would be de facto bad parents, I know that the gay community has never in my lifetime put children first as anything other than a piece of property, a past mistake or a political tool to be dressed up and taken out as part of a dog-and-pony show to impress the well-meaning,” Klein wrote.
Klein went on to emphasize that her lesbian mother would also pressure to pay “constant homage and attention” to the homosexual identity and spoke of the gay community’s “obsessive unhealthy invasive preoccupation with their children’s sexuality,” saying that her mother would tell her “being a virgin was for the stupid.” Her mother also taught that “some Jews and most Christians were stupid” and that homosexuals were “much more creative and artistic because they were not repressed and were naturally more ‘feeling.’”
Her brief closed warning people that same-sex marriage will only lead to the exploitation of children as property where women will become breeders for “wealthy male elites.” She also emphasized extreme cases of child sex abuse, most notably, the case of Mark Newton and Peter Truong, who were “front-page news as Gay Fathers of The Year even as they were using their helpless baby as an international sex slave.”
Robert Oscar Lopez offered a different perspective, crediting his two lesbian mothers for giving him the “best possible conditions for a child raised by a same-sex couple,” while simultaneously emphasizing the sexual confusion he had growing up without a father figure that led him to becoming prostitute for older men.
“Had I been formally studied by same-sex parenting ‘experts’ in 1985, I would have confirmed their rosiest estimations of LGBT family life,” Lopez wrote. “[But] behind these façades of a happy ‘outcome’ lay many problems.”
“I experienced a great deal of sexual confusion,” Lopez wrote. “I had an inexplicable compulsion to have sex with older males … and wanted to have sex with older men who were my father’s age, though at the time I could scarcely understand what I was doing.”
“The money I received for sex certainly helped me financially because it allowed me certain spending money beyond what I earned with my teenage jobs at a pizzeria and in my mother’s [psychiatric] clinic. But the money was not as impactful as the fact that I needed to feel loved and wanted by an older male figure, even if for only as short as a half hour.”
Lopez does not stand alone in his conclusion that children will ultimately be harmed by the widespread acceptance of same-sex “marriage” and included in his brief nine other testimonies of those who grew up in similar circumstances. Lopez stressed he knew many more children in deep suffering, but emphasized their fear to come forward due to the intense harassment and intimidation they would face at the hands of homosexual activists should they speak out. Lopez attested to their fears, saying activists have previously harassed his employers and spread lies about him on the internet.
“Children raised by same-sex couples face a gauntlet if they break the silence about the ‘no disadvantages’ consensus,” Lopez wrote. “In such a climate, I must conclude that placing children in same-sex couples’ homes is dangerous, because they have no space or latitude to express negative feelings about losing a mom or dad, and in fact they have much to fear if they do.”
Expanding on the intimidation front, Katy Faust testified that children from these relationships suffer the constant pressure of being labeled “bigot” or “hater” should they voice their opinions.
“Some adult children with gay parents shy away from making their thoughts about marriage public because we do not want to jeopardize our relationships with those to whom our hearts are tethered,” Faust wrote. “Unfortunately, many gay-marriage lobbyists have made gay marriage the sole badge of loyalty to our LGBT family and friends.”
“The label of bigot or hater has become very powerful and effective tools to silence those of us who choose not to endorse the marriage platform of many gay lobbyists,” Faust continued. “For much of my adult life I was content to keep my opinions on the subject of marriage to myself. I was (and still am) sickened by the accusation that I was bigoted and anti-gay for my belief in natural marriage.”
“For many years those devices kept me quiet,” admitted Faust. “I didn’t seek a venue where I could share my views. But I have come to realize that my silence, and the silence of others, has allowed for the conversation to be dominated by those who claim that only animus, ignorance, or indoctrination could lead one to oppose ‘marriage equality.'”
Faust’s opposition to same-sex marriage stemmed from her convictions that all children have a natural, inalienable right to a mother and father.
“When we institutionalize same-sex marriage … we move from permitting citizens the freedom to live as they choose, to promoting same-sex headed households,” Faust wrote. “Now we are normalizing a family structure where a child will always be deprived daily of one gender influence and the relationship with at least one natural parent. Our cultural narrative becomes one that, in essence, tells children that they have no right to the natural family structure or their biological parents, but that children simply exist for the satisfaction of adult desires.'”
Dawn Stefanowicz spoke in more graphic terms, recalling her life with a promiscuous homosexual father who died of AIDS.
“It is quite difficult to discuss the implications of growing up in a gay household until later in adulthood when we have developed a measure of personal identity and independence apart from our LGBT parent, partners and the subcultures,” Stefanowicz wrote. “We are often forced to approve and tolerate all forms of expressed sexuality, including various sexual and gender identity preferences.”
“As children, we are not allowed to express our disagreement, pain and confusion,” wrote Stefanowicz. “Most adult children from gay households do not feel safe or free to publicly express their stories and life-long challenges; they fear losing professional licenses, not obtaining employment in their chosen field, being cut off from some family members or losing whatever relationship they have with their gay parent(s). Some gay parents have threatened to leave no inheritance, if the children don’t accept their parent’s partner du jour.“
“The special-interest LGBT groups and so-called support groups for kids sometimes act, or function, as fronts for a far darker side that silences, intimidates and threatens the children who want to share the truth, allowing only a politically-correct version of our childhoods to be heard,” Stefanowicz continued. “These special-interest groups support political and legal objectives toward same-sex marriage, ignoring the horrendous inequality, permanent losses and prejudice to children in the name of adult sexual rights. Children lose forever their rights to know and be raised by their married biological father and mother.”
The 5th Circuit Court of Appeals won’t be issuing a decision regarding the same-sex “marriage” bans for months.